What is a relationship?
Oxford dictionary defines it as an association or connection or in more precise terms as an emotional association. The word emotional adds a lot of ambiguity to the term and provides space to writers like me, to present our own interpretation. Emotions is an expression of feelings, a smile on seeing the star studded sky… a laugh on seeing your buddy trip on the staircase…a frown on the driver honking in the traffic jam ..and many more things that form a part of our day. Thus it is basic human nature to express, lest we shall be logs of wood.
This expression can be categorized as positive or negative and also depends on how the person perceives it. When I laugh on my friend who has just fallen on a banana peel I am portraying a positive expressions which may be categorized as negative by my remorseful friend. Thus in light of the situation …. Any expression can fall in any categories… and only god can always express positive expressions…
So what we call man as a social being is just an insight into the bigger sphere of life. Some see the grape wine of relationships as chains that clutch them and prevent the flight of life However the contrary also holds good for many--- who view it as a foundation and elevated ground from where they can take-off to fulfill there aspirations and return when faced with desolation and failure. It serves as a support system of life. Whatever may be the perception , the fact remains that relationships either viewed in form of hindrances or support pillars, are indispensable part of every human beings life. The role they play in a persons life is a matter of his personal caprice. Social scenario also influences the extent of there role, an example is our well knit Indian society where relations are treated as crux of life.. however western influence has brought a radical change in ideologies and the way gen x treats relationships.
None of us can be advocates on weather this change is positive or negative because god forgot to write the rule book when he made Adam and Eve.!!!!!!!! Hence a little clue emerges after we have treaded the little distance towards our goal---“Relationships are what we perceive them as”.
Born on this and the gift that falls to your share are bundles of relations—few immediate few distant but they are your relations(relatives)live with them or leave them but they are yours. as we tread further and gain a sense of the world around us we start our own search and build relations of choice or what we call as friends….
The gloom blanketed life… and nothing can be more depressing than being alone and no one to share. It is well established that the other person may not be in the slightest of position to help us but the comfort of his/her being there for us shows paths to free ourselves from clutches of the upheaval plaguing our life. The mystery behind this insurgency of solutions to our problems is deep. The depth needs introspection. I wont be fettering in this process of self analysis , but will just hint at the path. Just peep around and adjudge people around with the level of comfort you enjoy in their company. Put comfort on a scale and people at its various levels. The introspection shall follow.