celebrations....

after attending a series of functions and night of glamourous marriage celebrations, i rake my brains....are the high flown, super duper, lavish, loud, gaudy celebrations required to mark the beginning of a new phase of a peaceful serene and loving companion ship?

sometimes, it just appears like a dismal waste of resources....are the close family memebers really enjoying the ongoing proceeding or they merely instruments for management? are teh guests really pouring blessing on teh couple or just pilling up their plates? Amidst the hullabaloo and the doldrums, I glance at teh coy bride...her blushing cheeks, her timid self....so much going on in her heart...so much changing in her life....and then why not celebrate this transition? Why not spend the hard earned resources on making this once a lifetime moment memorable? Why not give shape to her dreams and childhood fascinations?

A two sided figure emerge before my eyes...the utter disgust at teh wastage and the absolute love for the celebrations...so what should one do...can their that middle path(once advocated by buddha)...maybe!!!

expressions.....

when a message is posted on facebook wall or a random phone call declares unqualified love or when a compliment is paid....everything acquires this beautiful new dimension. When someone asked me, is expression the core of a relationship...my answer was simple, it s not the core but its simply like what a fragrance is to a rose, expression is to a relationship. By making the other person know what we feel in new interesting ways, by complimenting your 40 yourold wife, by thanking your dad for all his teachings, by calling a dear long lost frien, by hugging your husband when he leaves for work......we express. Expression is not a language but a gesture. It is not obligatory or complusory but necessary. Lack of expression does not harm your relationship but a presence of expression makes the relationship bloom.

My pact for the day...if i feel the need express...i shall...( caveat: be sure no one gets hurt)