BEST vs BEST

A debate has been brewing in my mind like the finest quality liquor ferments, changing colour and gathering its smoothness with age. Being a firm follower and hardcore romantic, I lived by the phrase ‘somewhere someone is made for you’ (very filmy, indeed). The God shall show various omens when this person appears in your life. In precise terms, there is one best person made for us and we should go around in search of it. Indirectly, this is propagating the concept of ‘love marriage’ only. Search on till you find him/her.Thus, we are an incomplete puzzle and hunt for the best fit to complete it.
On the contrary, finding the best in a person we have met along the course of our lives is the other option. Look at the simple way of doing this- we meet new people, we might like a few of them and would like to know more about them. The knowing process shall bring out dozens of similarities and plethora of dissimilarities...now this might not look like the ideal permutation and combination for the person we imagined to be our life partner. Generally, in this scenario we have two options. First, is getting disillusioned and continuing our search for the best person. The second refers to acceptance of the person as he/she is and making the best of what we have. The latter is an approach followed in most of the arranged marriages and quite surely for a lot of love marriages as well. I guess our parents might be right examples of making cordial compromises and making good the differences. Instead of rummaging over unfulfilled expectations, they look forward at the future with hope.
I came across the simplest rule to follow in order to stay happy- stop comparing people and stop expecting. Sounds too Godly...yes it does!!!! We are but mere mortals who will end up comparing the person in our lives to the on screen filmstar or a too perfect-to-believe friend. We would expect loads of things and more often than not, expect the other person to know about our wishes without us mentioning it. Oh goodness...are they supersonic human beings. Give them peace...speak out your expectations...ask what they expect and then let life be a simple happy journey.
No matter how perfectly suitable couples appear to be, somewhere a cord of contention or difference of opinion might emerge. And then we again find ourselves at the crossroads – disheartened, heartbroken, disillusioned lets search for the perfect one or accept the follies and make the best of the person in our lives. Moral of the story- you get the BEST either ways...but choose your course. Have a happy journey...